My wife and I want to donate to different causes

@Money July 11, 2011: 4:48 PM ET
donating to charities

(Money Magazine) -- My wife prefers to donate to religious charities and hates it when I donate to environmental ones or any other one she doesn't approve of. Got a solution? -- E.J., Colorado Springs

Readers say:

Go with your choice one year and with hers the next year. -- Rajeev Chowdhry, Dallas

Watch environmental documentaries with her to raise awareness. -- Kan Wang, Eastvale, Calif.

Find religious charities that do environmental work. -- Chris Perez, San Diego

Give like a billionaire -- even on your salary

My husband and I split our giving three ways: half goes to charities we both agree on, 25% goes to causes I pick, and 25% goes to his choices. -- Debra Tenenbaum, Portland, Maine

Budget an amount for charity. Split it. As long as the charity puts more than 70% of the income it receives to good use, no questions asked. -- Mike Bielenberg, Lakeport, Calif.

The expert says:

It's not essential that you agree on which charity is "right" for both of you. You can give to the causes you each believe in as individuals, instead of as a single unit. You do have a responsibility to decide as a couple how much you can afford to donate given your financial resources so that your charitable giving doesn't threaten other important goals, such as retirement or education expenses. -- Susan Zimmerman, chartered financial consultant and a marriage and family therapist.

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