My husband is a secret spender
My husband is a secret spender
Babette ("Babs") and Michael Chandrasoma. Babs says she isn't sure if threatening divorce would even help.

Babette "Babs" Chandrasoma

My husband is a secret spender. He will buy clothes and then tell me he had them, but then I'll find the tags in the trash can. He's just a buyer, a spender.

It's mostly clothes but he's brought home jet skis, a motorcycle, even a 1975 Chevy Blazer. I'm not sure if I said, 'I will divorce you if you get this truck,' if he would have still gotten the truck -- that's when it affects your relationship.

We have a garage and storage unit full of stuff and he continues to buy more. I'm budgeting and then I turn around and there will be four crock-pots. That's been an issue for us, financially and emotionally, because where does it end? We've been together for 10 years and I have to start drawing the line because we have kids.


Last updated July 01 2011: 10:22 AM ET
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