My wife and I have been married almost three years. Even when we were dating, I started seeing new things around. I just always noticed new jewelry, dresses, shirts. She would causally lie about it or be coy about it. I even caught her sending packages to her mother's house. She was paying for a lot of things she didn't need. She uses her debit card and there have been times when she overdraws our account. That's caused a lot of problems.
I don't mind her shopping, I just want her to take an interest in saving. I try to stress looking to the future. I want to go on vacation this summer and what if we start a family? Buying clothes and useless stuff like candles, I see as pointless. It's always been one of those disagreements in our relationship.