|
|
Caring
for Aging Parents
Are
you ready for the responsibility
hree
out of four Americans live past the age of 65. That's good news when it
comes to thinking about your parents and the years you'll have together.
It also means there's a good chance you'll help take care of them at some
point in your life.
That said, there
are important matters for you and your parents to consider about their
future. So why not plan ahead? By putting it off you'll risk the possibility
of having to rush through critical decisions, with unfavorable results.
You can start by
asking your parents some basic questions: Where will they live and who
will make decisions about their health care and finances if they can no
longer take care of themselves? Then, consider the following issues as
you agree on a plan of action.
Covering
expenses
One of the biggest issues for aging parents and their families is the
cost of housing and services. Medicare pays for rehabilitative nursing
home care immediately after a hospital stay but only for a limited period
of time. Medicaid pays for nursing home care only after a person has spent
almost all of his or her personal assets. Savings built up through the
years can also provide some support, but what happens if you don't have
quite enough to cover all the costs?
Long-term care insurance
can help. For a fixed number of years, these policies pay about $100 per
day for nursing home care and about $50 a day for services provided at
home. Policies sometimes cover certain costs for assisted living facilities
and adult day care services.
The key to long-term
care insurance is to start saving early. You're locked into your premium
rate for good when you first buy a policy. Every year you delay purchasing
one, premium rates jump by about 8%. Look at the numbers: for a healthy
50-year old, the fixed premium is about $800 a year. Buying one at age
65 will cost you about $1,800 per year. At age 75, it's up to an annual
$5,900. People with serious pre-existing medical conditions usually don't
qualify.
Another thing to
remember when looking into long-term care insurance: inflation protection.
Even though this part of the plan costs a little extra, if you start saving
at a young age, you'll need compounded inflation protection to help keep
pace with the constantly escalating costs of care.
Planning
for the unexpected
Who should make decisions about your parents' health care and finances
if they no longer can? What are your parents' preferences about financial
matters if they become unable to decide for themselves?
These are emotional issues to consider, so be a good listener. Your parents
need to be reassured you'll respect their wishes. The following legal
documents can help you define those wishes and take proper action if your
parents require assistance:
- Living Will.
This states the type of life-sustaining treatment your parent wants
or does not want in case he or she becomes too sick to express preferences.
- Health Care Proxy
(Durable Medical Power of Attorney). A health care proxy authorizes
a person and a backup to make medical decisions for someone who has
become too ill to do so. The proxy can use the living will as a guide.
A copy of the living will and health care proxy should be left with
your parents' doctor, lawyer and other family members. It can be registered
online at www.uslivingwillregistry.com.
- Durable Power
of Attorney (DPOA). Durable power of attorney names the person and a
backup who have the power to make decisions about finances and other
matters on behalf of a parent who becomes mentally incapacitated. Some
DPOAs take effect as soon as they are signed; others spring
into effect only after a person becomes ill.
- Power of Attorney.
Unlike a DPOA, this document is valid when the parent is mentally competent
but is unavailable, such as being away on a trip. With power of attorney,
you can act on your parents' behalf in identified financial situations.
Copies of this document should be distributed to businesses and financial
institutions with which your parents conduct transactions.
Separately, you can be named as a joint owner of your parents' bank
and brokerage accounts and as a joint renter of their safe deposit box.
This gives you access to those accounts and important documents in case
of an emergency.
Where
should your parents live?
There
is a broad spectrum of housing options for aging parents outside the family
home, as the chart to the left shows. At one end is the assisted living
facility, where seniors live together in group housing arrangements and
have access to 24-hour personal and supportive services.
At the other end
is the nursing home, which provides 24-hour nursing care and assistance.
This is generally for elders who can no longer perform daily tasks without
help, such as eating or bathing, and those who need medical attention.
Making these kinds
of decisions can be emotionally difficult. But you can ease the pressure
on both sides by creating a plan together. For now, it means maintaining
an open level of communication with your parents, keeping in contact with
them and letting them know you are there for them if and when they need
you.
Your time together in
the future will be more enjoyable because you'll know what to expect.
By minimizing the uncertainty, you'll have greater peace of mind
for the years ahead.
TYPE
OF HOUSING
|
SERVICES
PROVIDED
|
ESTIMATED
COSTS
|
Assisted
living facility
|
Group
housing for people with some disabilities. Personal care and supportive
services provided 24 hours/day plus some health care and meals. |
$2,000-
$3,000/month |
Board
and care |
Small
facility for 10 or less. Provides room, meals, help with daily activities
and sometimes nursing services. |
$350/
$3,000/month |
Continuing
care retirement community |
Large
complex offering life-time care. Options range from independent living
to skilled nursing home care. |
$60,000-
$120,000 one-time entry fee plus about $1,400/month |
Senior
apartment, retirement community |
Apartment
building, or complex of buildings or houses for seniors who live independently.
Social activities are usually offered and sometimes meals and housekeeping,
for an extra cost.
|
Depends
on local market |
Nursing
home |
Group
housing for those who need skilled nursing care and personal care services.
Meals provided. |
$5,000-
$7,000/month |
SOURCE:
AARP, Eldercare Advocates, www.aahsa.org,
www.insweb.org |
|
|
|